Prepare yourself!

What does that mean?

In the movies we see what a good woman is.  For example in ‘Pride and Prejudice’ or ‘Emma’, we see that over one hundred years ago in English society a good woman was one who is refined in certain areas such as housekeeping (at least supervising), cooking or at least menu preparation,  needlework, playing a musical instrument such as the piano and/or singing, and etiquette or how to behave like a lady.  Topics of conversation for a young lady were kept light, such as the weather and definitely did not include matters of politics and religion, which were best kept for the men who understood those things!

The character Elizabeth Bennett is one of the most famous characters who rejected the overall notion which traditionally also included good breeding, preferably from aristocracy and old money.  Additionally she was outspoken and had high expectations in love and was passionate about at least some form of equality in marriage – all very radical concepts for a young woman in that day.

Whilst the underlying practicality of home duties is admirable, the quashing of one’s own personality and gifts for the sake of society and perhaps the husband, was a major factor leading to the women’s liberation movement.  Unfortunately with the women’s lib propaganda becoming mainstream, men were confounded, and still they have not yet come to terms with the new role.  Now women not only can have a job after marriage but may also at times be the major financial provider in the household.  Women and especially younger women have taken this to new extremes.  The television program ‘From Ladette to Lady’ is a classic case.  Both men and women behaving badly, leads to the breakdown of the moral fibre of society.

So amongst this backdrop, what does it look like to prepare yourself for finding true love

Become the right partner.  When we are the right partner – we can then attract the right mate!

Proverbs 31 tells us that

“A wife of noble character, who can find?  She is worth far more than rubies.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

So to be noble – according to Roget’s Thesaurus, impressive, splendid, well-bred, worshipful, proud…

Her husband trusts her implicitly which means she is trustworthy – she does him good which implies she encourages and supports him.  She does not speak badly about him or cause strife.

Proverbs 31 also explains about working hard, being creative, looking after her family, being financially savvy, and she is charitable, including in practical ways.

And “She is clothed in strength and dignity.  She can laugh at the days to come.  She speaks with wisdom, and fruitful instruction is on her tongue.”

Do you have dignity?  Do you speak with wisdom?

We all know we can be prone to positive wonderful thoughts leading to positive, wonderful actions AND we can have depressing thoughts leading to dark days and maybe even resorting to daytime soapie watching!!

Remember that to be purposeful in life we need to put good stuff in to our hearts, minds and bodies.  Listen to inspiring speakers and music, allow love to flow in and out to others in appropriate ways, respect your bodies by eating good food in moderation and doing exercise.  Work on becoming emotionally and spiritually mature, so you will be able to attract and maintain the right relationship with your true love.

Being a good woman is a challenge when society’s expectations of us are so high.  Can you think of any films or books depicting how to be the right partner?