Over the next month or so, we will look at the importance of mindset regarding dating.

Is your goal to get married and live a fulfilling life as a couple? Lives and hearts intertwined? picture of 2 hearts intertwined
Mindset for dating may involve:
 EQ Emotional Intelligence
 Personality types
 Communication/people skills (in general and within an intimate relationship)


So what is mindset?
“A set of attitudes or fixed ideas that someone has and that are often difficult to change.”
(Source: Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary)
Conscious and unconscious beliefs

On the surface you may be believing/affirming “I am happily married to the man of my dreams.” However if you have been saying this for a while now, and there is no man in sight…. there is something blocking you.  [Or depending on your life view another reason may be there is a different purpose for your life – eg have you seen the movie with Diane Lang, Under The Tuscan Sun?]

So consciously you may be affirming:
“I am worthy and deserving of love.”
And yet subconsciously you believe:
“I am not good enough.” Or “No-one will ever love me enough to marry me.”
Or perhaps you were belittled as a child by a parent or sibling – “You are so stupid.”

If your conscious and sub-conscious beliefs do match there may be a problem

– ie if you want to change that particular belief.

This trickier issue, where your conscious and subconscious beliefs do not match, is where most of the singles dwell. If you are not manifesting the life you want (in this case being with the man/woman of your dreams), then your conscious and subconscious beliefs most likely do not match.  So how can you change this?

Step 1 Become aware of your subconscious limiting and/or negative belief.
Step 2 Change it to the one you want!
The simplest way with step 2 is to go from negative to positive.

Eg you have the subconscious belief “I am not good enough.”
Change it to “I am good enough.”
One way to shift this belief to become your conscious and subconscious belief is to use the first, second third person strategy. Either with a partner or a mini conversation with yourself….
A I am good enough.
B Yes, you are.
Repeat 10 x
B You are good enough.
A Yes, I am.
Repeat 10 x
A [Own or partner’s name] is good enough.
B Yes, he/she is.
NOTE: As this step is third person, both parts can be done by both people.
Repeat 10 x
When repeating, a good technique is to change the stress on each word – eg “I AM good enough” and “I am GOOD enough.” Etc. As with any learning, “repetition is the mother of skill.”

If you are doing activities by yourself, the best results are obtained from usuing a mirror. Look deep into yourself and say “I am good enough!”

There are so many strategies to shake up your subconscious to manipulate your beliefs. How exciting is that? You can choose what you believe about yourself and your life, and step into the life you choose!!!

Have you had success with any strategies to blast out your old unwanted limiting beliefs?