Now that you have become aware of issues – refer to the last blog post on healing old hurts and learning how to control your emotions, we can begin afresh.  Become a better you, become successful in life.

So firstly, you are a woman.  You were also once a little girl.  What do all little girls want?  Think back to when you were a little girl.  What games did you play?  What books did you read?  Perhaps you loved Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, where you imagined you would be rescued by the handsome prince.

Then think about some of the biggest blockbuster films of all time.  Films that are equally popular with men and women.  On this list, a common inclusion is ‘Braveheart’, where Mel Gibson plays William Wallace.

According to an awesome book, ‘Captivating’, by John and Stasi Eldridge, all little girls want to be beautiful, want to have an adventure and want to be romanced.

Somewhere along the way, we come to believe that we are not good enough, pretty enough, that we are unworthy.

In the last post, I mentioned about knowing how you feel.  When we become aware of our beliefs, including our unconscious beliefs, we can choose to change them.  There are so many resources on this.  One of the best that has been around for decades is Louise Hay’s book, ‘You Can Heal Your Life’.

Who are you?  Yes, of course you are a woman.  Perhaps you are a mum, sister, aunt, daughter, and vocationally/professionally you may be a teacher, lawyer, stay at home mum, shop assistant, retiree or internet marketer.  These however describe your activities or you in relation to others.

What do you stand for?  What are you passionate about?  What irritates you the most?  It could be cruelty to animals, untrained staff in a restaurant, child abuse, or bad hair. The list is endless.  However out of your issue, arises your passion eg RSPCA officer, hospitality trainer, social worker or hair dresser.

Rick Warren wrote the best-selling book, ‘Purpose Driven Life’.  In it he explains how we each have our own individual shape, and how to recognize that SHAPE – Spiritual Gifts, Heart, Abilities, Personality and Experiences.  Even if you do not enjoy reading, do yourself a favour and read this book.  It is a 40 day program, where you read a few pages then do a simple reflection activity each day.  It can be life changing and has been for millions of people.

Remember your life is not about you.  Your gifts and talents are blessings (even though you hopefully have developed them further in your life to date).  Just as your breath flows in and out, the tide flows in and out, so do blessings.  When you choose to give, you are also choosing to receive.  Choose to be a blessing to someone today.

What are your gifts and talents?  When have you used them to bless someone else?