What Is True Love?

We know there are various types of love – which in other languages and cultures are so much easier to distinguish between.  Most commonly love is separated into three types of love: Eros; Philos; and Agape.

According to wiki.answers.com :

Agape — unconditional love, God for mankind

Philia — Philiadepia, the city of brotherly love, or love that exists between close friends.

Eros — sexual, exotic love

And a forth

Storge — Love that grows between family members.

Eros is the most immediate and lowest form.  Philos is developed over time however some people just ‘click’ and it feels like they have been friends forever.  Agape takes time to develop – working through various situations especially where true character is revealed.  This one is truly a gift from God.  For marriage, ideally there will be a mix of all.

So what is love?

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.”

1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 8

What does love look like?

Love is patient. This is not referring to people being punctual but rather over time love grows.  Be patient with each other.  All relationships require work and those between a man and a woman is especially tricky as we are so different.

Love is kind.  Perhaps when your beloved does something really stupid – don’t even mention it!  Be kind.  If you look closely, they will also have done this for you… many times J

It does not envy.  True love is where you can genuinely delight in the other’s success.  Be encouraging of their good fortune.

It is not boastful.  Humility is a fruit of the spirit.  By acknowledging that we all have help we remain humble.  When we are in our pity party, we sometimes forget to be grateful for even the smallest gifts of help.  When we look closely those seemingly small gifts are often the ones to be treasured most such as the warm hug of your child.

“ … the fruit of the Spirit is love, peace, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Galatians 5: 22

As Joyce Meyer says, look where love and self-control are.  They are bookends.  Without love you cannot be kind or peaceful or joyful.  However it is self-control that keeps all these in balance!

It is not proud.  Now this is an interesting one.  Pride can be both positive and negative.  For example, it is not good to be proud and arrogant, thinking you are better than someone else – especially your partner.  However to take pride in your appearance is showing that you honour yourself.

Thanks beautiful lady for reading this post and if you want to share your own experience or better yet, you have a fresh perspective, then add a comment.  Stay strong on your way to finding true love.

What does true love look like to you?

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